The messages we see and hear leading up to Christmas from media and marketing campaigns can feel as if expectations are being imposed on us to enjoy ourselves and be happy in the holiday season.
What if you are just about managing to get through each day at the moment….what if you are facing the Christmas period alone, grieving for someone who has died, or you are in the midst of family or relationship conflict? Facing Christmas can then feel a very daunting prospect.
Conflicts which exist all year around can often come to the surface at this time of year. The expectation to gather the whole family together can result in anxiety, stress and pressure. Accepting this may happen and being able to set grievances aside until a more appropriate time for discussion, may be helpful.
Christmas can be a time of sadness, whether someone close to you has recently died, or you were bereaved a long time ago. It is important to acknowledge to yourself that it is normal to feel sadness and grief. You do not need to force yourself to be happy, just because it is the holiday season. Spending some time thinking in advance about arrangements over Christmas and what would be most helpful for you can be useful.
There are many people for whom loneliness is a significant issue throughout the year, and particularly in the holiday season. If you feel lonely or isolated, have a look at any local community or social events which may be taking place. The organisation Mind has helpful information and practical suggestions to cope with loneliness. See the link below.
Many elderly people do not look forward to Christmas because they will be on their own. This is the time of year to check on older neighbours, relatives and friends. Perhaps tell them about ‘The Silver Line’ which is a free confidential helpline providing information, friendship and advice to older people. It is open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. Telephone number 0800 4 70 80 90
Physical tiredness and disruption of your normal routine can, in itself, be a cause for stress over the Christmas period. With so many expectations and obligations, it is easy to forget to look after yourself. Just being able to keep to regular patterns of sleeping and eating can be helpful.
Please contact firstname.lastname@example.org if you are struggling with any of the issues raised in this post, and would like an appointment to see a counsellor.